Teenagers vs. Youth: “I am Not a Teenager!”

If you are tired of teenage attitudes and problems this is something you will want to know.  http://www.iamnotateenager.com/has a free book preview written by youth for teens. The book shows teenagers there is a different way to be.  They can be “youth” instead.  There is a difference. 

Have you noticed that the brethern of the church refer to people ages 12- 18 as “youth” or “young men and  young women?”  They don’t call the “young adults” teenagers.  Teenagers are a different kind of person than a youth.  Youth want adult responsibilites and strive to live adult like.  They value family relationships and are engaged in purpose filled learning.  Teenagers want the “perks” of being older, but don’t want the responsibilities or the study. 

Each week I teach a class for youth ages 12-16 Continue reading

Isn’t it Wonderful?

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Isn’t it wonderful?

I used to love to watch President Hinckley in action with the press. Whenever he fielded a really difficult question, he would answer simply and directly, and then follow with a cheerful, “Isn’t it wonderful?” His sharp mind and guileless manner always won over his detractors. He was absolutely disarming in his warm, clear and plain witness of what was true.

Perhaps the thing that stays with me the most is his hopeful declaration: “Isn’t it wonderful?” With these three words he expressed faith, hope and charity all at once. It makes me think of the account of Dutch sisters Corrie and Betsie Ten Boom, who were imprisoned in a concentration camp by the Nazis for their role in protecting Jews during the Holocaust. Their barracks were the most detested by the prisoners, because of the infestation of fleas. Through it all, Betsie urged Corrie to follow the Lord’s counsel to give gratitude in all things. Corrie was a good soldier through most of what they had to endure, but could not reconcile how the Lord’s love was manifest in such a meaningless pestilence as the fleas.

And yet…

Much later Corrie came to know that the reason that the Bible they huddled over for clandestine prayer meetings in their barracks was never found–nor much less, the prayer meetings themselves–was because the guards themselves were loath to enter into the barracks where the fleas were such a problem. The very fleas were a gift from God–a gift that allowed them to share hope and faith with so many others who were without a reason to live.

Isn’t it wonderful?

The very things that seem to try our patience, our faith, our endurance, our good will–these, not least of all, are the things that represent the Lord’s abundant kindness to us. We all know this, in hindsight. Would that, like Betsie, like President Hinckley, we could see with the eyes of faith and praise God for the fleas.

xoxo rd

Taking Offense: Is It Tattling?

 Have you ever been offended?  

It is impossible to go through life without experiencing that hurt which comes from a unkind word, or a questionable glance. When these things happen we are left to wonder and assume what the person really thinks of us and if they intended to offend.

Children especially have a tendency to take offense to small actions and words. A mother asked me this about her daughter who has a problem with being offended.

How do I help my eight year old daughter stop tattling on friends and family members? She takes offense by so many things. And, she seems to want to get other people in trouble to make herself look good. What do I do to stop this?”

The other day I had a group of children over playing at my home. One of our visitors came to me with a very pouty face and tattled on behaviors of two of the other children. The child told me that one person was rude because Continue reading

Taking The Day On! And Loving It!

Life is busy.  I rarely meet a family who isn’t going lots of places and involved in all kinds of worth while persuits.  We all serve in church capacities, community groups, and in our families.  Of course this list doesn’t even mention all the things we do to provide for the needs of our families and to make the world a better place.  Yes, there are lots of things to do.  I am like the rest, I live just about every minute of my life anxiously engaged in goodness. 

I used to worry about not having enough time.  I would often lament to my husband and friends about not having enough time.  However, I have made a consious effort to change that lament, and this is why. Continue reading