Improving Self Esteem: How To Build Self Confidence In Children

A Mother’s Question About Building Self Esteem In Children

 “Emma said to me at bedtime that she thinks that she’s ugly. I’m not exactly sure where she heard this since I’m always telling her how cute she is, but what would you say to your kids if they said that?”

 Nicholeen’s Answer:

 I am wondering if she has heard lots of talk about beauty from friends at school. Maybe some friends always talk about how pretty certain class mates are, and she is never mentioned or something like that.

Usually issues like this appear to be self-worth problems, but are usually social issues. A girl who is surrounded by talk about beauty can assume she isn’t pretty even if no one says anything mean.

Many people are groomed these days to base their worth off of feed back from others. If a person gets in the habit of that they will always end up needing low self-esteem help. An important skill to know is how to improve your self-esteem. This skill is essential for proper self-government. We really do have control over our own self-confidence. Continue reading

Learning from an “Honorary” Mormon

Years ago Andrew Bowen was an Evangelical Christian with very set beliefs. Anyone who didn’t share his faith were both going to hell and worthy of contempt. No one deserved his and God’s wrath more than Mormons. whenever Mormon missionaries came near he would curse and yell at them, chasing the bike riders away. It was a scene from the Mormon past made contemporary.

His wife became pregnant and they expected the start of a wonderful life with the new child. Surely God was blessing him for faithfulness to the Lord. Then tragedy struck. Not only did they lose the child, but in a way that his faith taught him should never be chosen; abortion. If they didn’t do it then both mother and child would die. There was no way around it and the experience crushed all his faith.

Grappling with personal and spiritual loss, he decided to research religion for at least one year. His method was to pick a faith for a month and completely immerse himself in the traditions and teachings. He became a self-described “honorary” member of whatever he picked for the month with the help of an inside mentor.

Having already been a Jew and Hindu, among other faiths, his next step was the biggest so far. Taking up the courage to repent of his abuses he “became” a Mormon. As it happened he picked July, although it doesn’t appear he completely realized in its entirety how important a month for Mormon culture. He understood Pioneer Day as a religious holiday, but he never mentioned July 4th with spiritual significance. There are at least a few things a Mormon can learn from what he wrote. Continue reading

A psychologist discusses the ideology behind the war on moms

I present some very provocative statements from a psychologist regarding the ideology behind Hilary Rosen’s comments about Ann Romney.

You can read the entire piece here.

Some key excerpts:

What Hilary Rosen has exposed is a psychological fault line that separates those women who simply oppose unfair gender-based barriers in education or employment or elsewhere from other women who actually despise and disrespect those females who choose to be full-time wives and mothers, instead of entering the workforce.

These “anti-gender” women have it in for anyone who embraces her femininity, maternal instincts and capacity to nurture as their highest priority — postponing or passing up other laudable opportunities to work at, say, a law firm or as a marketing executive. They despise the notion that some women may indeed be drawn — instinctively and happily — toward creating special and loving environments in which to raise their children, while spending all their available time sustaining and enriching those environments and those children.

They despise the parts of themselves that may be drawn to such roles, as well. That’s why women like Hilary Rosen make such outlandish statements, to begin with. They’re essentially talking to themselves — albeit, with the rest of the world forced to listen — trying to reassure themselves that their own choices in life weren’t only equally as good as those of other women, but better. Far, far better. They feel like their choices are better because they have thrown off the shackles of roles that were once “expected” of them, leaving them not only freer than, but superior to, those women who don’t feel enslaved at home, but feel fulfilled at home.

Read more: http://www.foxnews.com/opinion/2012/04/12/nasty-comments-toward-ann-romney-cast-light-on-haters-who-cant-handle-feminine/#ixzz1s2ZEODeo

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Are any (or all) of these quotations regarding the Constitution true?

With all of the stuff out there on the white horse prophecy, frankly I am confused as to what has been said and what has not been said about latter-day Saints and the Constitution. I just got forwarded these quotations in an e-mail. Are all of them true? Some of them? This is an honest plea for help in separating the wheat from the chaff, so to speak, when it comes to prophetic statements and the Constitution. I am also open to interpretation about the meanings of these quotations.

Prophetic Warnings

1)Prophecy of Joseph Smith, according to Orson Hyde:
was that the time would come when the Constitution and the country would be in danger of an overthrow; and . . . “if the Constitution be saved at all, it will be by the Elders of this Church.” (Source: Journal of Discourses, Vol.6, p. 152, January 3, 185

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War on moms?

A Democratic adviser says Ann Romney, who raised five boys, hasn’t worked a day in her life.

To quote Rick Perry, “oops.”

Everybody knows the mom of five kids is working plenty, and the job never seems to end. Have you ever had two kids with croup in the same night? We have, and believe me that is work, a 24-hour-a-day job. I’m sure Ann Romney had more significant challenges.

Unfortunately, it is all too common these days to hear people saying women “don’t work” unless they leave the house to go earn money. It is especially sad to hear a woman trying to make political points by claiming Mitt Romney is out of touch by claiming that a mother of five children never worked.

In fairness, it should be noted that many Obama spokespeople immediately distanced themselves from the comment. Gaffes like this cannot help the campaigner in chief get another four years. Is it possible the backlash to this comment will help bring more respect for stay-at-home moms? Let’s hope so, but I tend to think it will be short-lived.