If you are at all like me, you may have come to the realization a few years ago that the world appears to be changing in alarming ways. The thing that really drove it home for me was the time in 2015 that a friend argued that any boy who said he was a girl was really a girl.
This friend is very well-intentioned, so I sincerely tried to understand his position.
“Wait, you are saying that any boy who thinks he is a girl really is a girl?” I said.
His answer: “Yes.”
“Well, what about the biological differences between girls and boys?”
“Biology is not as important as the reality that the person feels that he is a girl trapped in a boy’s body.”
“I agree that we should treat these people with love and compassion, but this does not mean that we must deny basic biology.”
“Biology is not as important as the perceptions and lived experiences of these people. If you have real compassion, the only thing you would care about is how they experience life, and you would have charity for their reality.”
To be frank, I was flabbergasted. “Their reality.” Not “reality,” as in things that are real and not real, such as biology. The implication was that there was no objective reality — just feelings and emotions and desires, which are completely subjective and personal. And this friend of mine was arguing that these personal feelings were more important than objective reality.
I said to my friend: “I am not sure you understand the end point of your argument. What you are saying is not just that a boy can say he is a girl. Your argument also means that a boy can say he is a chair or a dog or a horse *as long as he perceives reality that way.*”
My friend would not concede that point — he insisted that we were only talking about gender issues. But I warned him at that time that if society adopted his viewpoint there would be a whole list of repercussions, everything from fights over bathrooms to the end of girls sports. And, today we already witnessing the destruction of girls sports right in front of our eyes.
But that discussion seems harmless and quaint compared to the insanity around us in 2020.