On Dementia And Traitors

A few months ago I posted about Riley, a relative I am seeking to protect.

Earlier this week Riley drove from the east coast to a western state without stopping. After at least one encounter with highway troopers, Riley eventually drove off the road into a highway median, then left their car and walked into the traffic lanes of the interstate. Riley was pulled from the road by a concerned passerby, to whom Riley’s friends and family owe a great debt of gratitude.

In two ER visits since then, Riley has been given a diagnosis of dementia, complete with pretty pictures of Riley’s brain showing evidence of the silent stroke that likely occurred in 2015. Apparently silent strokes occur 14 times more often than the strokes that manifest as physical weakness such as slurred speech. While there is no obvious outward manifestation of a silent stroke, a silent stroke can damage the portion of the brain related to impulse control, judgement, and mood regulation.

Dementia

As various health problems, such as silent stroke, are associated with aging, we see one reason some are nervous about the advanced age of most Church leaders, given that death by assassination and apostasy no longer keeps the average age of the leadership relatively low. 1

Yet as I am observing in the case of Riley, it is possible for a person to continue to function with dignity when surrounded by loving friends and family. The Bible gives us the analogy, telling us of a time Noah was impaired. One group mocked him, inviting others to see the drunken nakedness of their leader. The other group covered his nakedness and allowed him to sleep off the inebriation in peace.

If the Church were led by a Q1 (as in the case of Riley with their own estate and person), I would agree there could be concern. But the Church is led by a Q15, making it unlikely that failure of any single individual could derail the Church.

Traitors

But it is not the ravages of old age on Church leaders that causes most to lose faith. It is a belief that Church leadership at some point became traitors to the cause of Christ. We see this with Snuffer and his followers. For many of those losing faith over “polygamy,” their concern is that Joseph allowed carnal desire to overcome his devotion to God’s path.

I live in DC and have some experience with traitors.

One was an IT specialist from a few decades ago, a very helpful and personable young man. But then NCIS debriefed us on the fact that this friendly IT specialist had been selling secrets to a foreign power. In a moment, all the friendly good feeling I had felt towards this individual was replaced with a new set of feelings. Every kind moment was reframed as a traitor’s calculated actions to gain access to secrets.

Another was horror from a distance. A co-worker lived in Vienna, VA, and had a teenage daughter. One weekend the daughter was to have a sleep-over at the home of a new friend. The sleep-over was cancelled when the friend’s father failed to arrive at home. The father was Aldrich Hazen Ames, a CIA operative who was discovered to be a KGB mole.

Belief that a former friend or hero was a traitor can instantly transform one’s perception.

There are those who are very upset with my writings about Joseph Smith and plural marriage. They are typically those who have determined that Joseph was God’s prophet, no matter what he might have done. Therefore they do not understand why people would consider Joseph a traitor.

These folks think it is sufficient to point out that Joseph’s actions weren’t quite as black as portrayed by the meanest tweets.

I assert that to ensure Joseph is not perceived as traitor, we need to understand the heroic battle he was waging against sin. Fortunately, Joseph’s battle with sin redeemed many souls, and these individuals went on to become valiant leaders in the LDS faith.

But you cannot properly understand a conflict by only allowing information about the unredeemed sinners. Without understanding the peril to the innocent and repentant, Joseph’s actions appear unjustifiable, erratic, and demented.

I find Joseph to be utterly innocent of the charge that he betrayed God. I similarly find Brigham utterly innocent of the charge that he betrayed God. While each may have committed tactical errors, their motives were pure.

I likewise find LDS leaders since Joseph and Brigham to have been guided by God.

But as we consider our loved ones who have lost faith, it is useful to understand the fundamental shift in worldview that they have experienced. They are as one who has become convinced that a nourishing meal is riddled with bacteria and insects. In their minds, they are right.

In the fictional world of Harry Potter, there was one that was long believed to be evil, Severus Snape. Yet at Snape’s death, it was discovered that he had been on the side of good the entire time. He became the anti-traitor, arguably becoming the most heroic figure of that entire fictional world.

It is not enough to merely suggest that Joseph’s covenants with women other than Emma weren’t quite as bad as popularly portrayed. We need to fundamentally overturn the narrative that portrays Joseph as a traitor to God’s cause. We who are faithful need to plumb the original documents to find the heroic Joseph whose whole aim was to bring mankind to God through repentance and saving ordinances.

Can we say, as did Agnes Coolbrith, 2 “Joseph our Dear Dear Dear departed one Joseph there is none greater there is none better none more honest and upright…”?

If we cannot enthusiastically proclaim the goodness and honesty of Joseph along with Agnes Coolbrith, then we do not truly know Joseph.

Notes:

  1. Deaths (David W. Patten, Joseph Smith Jr., Parley P. Pratt) and apostasy (roughly half of the apostles and other senior leaders of the Church from 1837 to 1847) kept the average age of Church leaders relatively young in the first decades of Church history.
  2. Agnes Coolbrith was the widow of Joseph’s brother, Don Carlos. In 1842 Agnes covenanted with Joseph Smith. After Joseph’s death, Agnes married a Mormon who subsequently left the faith, stranding Agnes in California. Agnes’s words are from a letter she wrote during the Civil War to Joseph F. Smith, Joseph Smith’s nephew and later president of the LDS Church.
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About Meg Stout

Meg Stout has been an active member of the LDS church for decades. She lives in the DC area with her husband, Bryan, and several daughters. She is an engineer by vocation and a writer by avocation. Meg is the author of Reluctant Polygamist, laying out the possibility that Joseph taught the acceptability of plural marriage but may have privately defied the commandment for love of his wife, Emma.

5 thoughts on “On Dementia And Traitors

  1. Perception is primary. I have found it difficult enough to convince the nominally sane that their perception is in error.

  2. It remains difficult for me to grasp that people would view with skepticism the notion that Joseph didn’t have sex with every woman to whom he was sealed. Sure, he *could* have, I suppose, but there’s only so many hours in the day, and it’s not like there’s an enormous number of Smith descendants out there (which one would expect from relations with dozens of “wives”).

    Your thesis makes sense to me, Meg, and in no way lessens Joseph. The controversy eludes me. I wouldn’t mind hearing from someone who finds the Faithful Joseph concept troubling, because I’m curious about the counter-case. I’ll state at the outset that I don’t think a coherent counter-case can be mounted, but I’d respect the attempt.

  3. Just to be clear, I think some people are upset with Meg’s writings because they disagree with some of her history. I am somewhat of a revisionist on many historical issues, but an agnostic on Joseph Smith and sexuality because I don’t think it matters one way or another. I think Meg’s view *could* be correct. There is certainly the issue of lack of progeny to consider. Meanwhile, we *know* BY had sexual relations with many women. So, if your issue is prophets and polygamy, you should worry more about Brigham Young and less about Joseph Smith.

    In any case, I really appreciate Meg’s efforts on this subject. But at the same time I respect and appreciate the faithful Mormon historians who disagree with her. It seems we are all on the same side in the end.

  4. Thanks, Meg! Your approach, with the history, fits what I have long believed without the history. It is entirely plausible.

  5. Meg, have you received any feedback from employees within the History Dept of the church? Or just freelance/commercial/online historians?

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