How To Correct Children: Inviting Good Behaviors

 

Situation One

 

A mother says, “Alice I need you to take out the garbage.”

 

Alice rolls her eyes and walks away. She has obviously made up her mind not to follow the instruction.

 

Mother feels Alice needs some correction so she says, “Don’t you look at me like that! Your behavior is disrespectful! Get back here and take out this trash or you will not get to play with friends today.”

 

Debrief

 

I could discuss the flaws in this interaction at length, but for this article I want to bring your attention to one part of the interaction; Read the rest of this entry »

How To Stop Getting Angry: Relaxation Breathing Techniques.

  

Mom, I’m going to go to Zack’s to play basketball. Is that okay?” Quinton, age fifteen, announced this morning.

 

I replied, “Quin, you have things to do here at home today, so I don’t think we will have time for friends until another day.”

 

Quin really wanted to go shoot hoops with his friend. What fifteen year old boy doesn’t? His mouth closed, his cheek muscles tightened, and his eyes narrowed. Then something miraculous happened. Read the rest of this entry »

Family Communication Craft Idea!

 

There are many ways to show love for family members. However, in our family, we don’t write to each other as much as we talk to each other or do acts of service. So, for one of our family activities we decided to make a family mail system.

 

Outside Mom and Dad’s bedroom door we made a family post office. Each of us have our own mail box, with flag to indicate when there is a message we need to pick up.

 

Our family is loving this! I spend moments each day writing love notes my family will want to keep forever, and depositing small gifts into the boxes. Everyone else does the same. My small children come to me and say, “Mom, your flag is up, you better go check your mailbox.”

 

They can’t wait for me to see the love notes they have put in my box. “Mom, you are the best mom ever! Love, Londyn”

 

When I read the notes some of the children Read the rest of this entry »

Back Talking Cure

 

Question:

 

“How do you stop children from back talking?”

 

Answer:

 

Children talking back, or sassing, to their parents seems to be a behavior many children experiment with. At different phases of development feelings of independence and intelligence emerge causing kids to talk back.

 

Ironically, parents spend lots of energy reinforcing the intelligence of their children, and teaching the children how to think for themselves. If we spend so many years moving our child toward self-governing thoughts and behaviors, why do we care so much about back talking children and back talking teenagers? Read the rest of this entry »

New Years Resolutions For Kids

 This movie is so inspiring!  http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=Cf7lYGYo_JU 

Eleven year old, Jacob, shares his New Years Resolutions ideas.  I recently met Jacob’s family and helped them learn some self-government principles.  When I came to visit a second time he showed me his inspiring idea of how to keep himself motivated and focused on his self-government goals.  

 

Talk about inspiring!! He made his own New Years Resolution activities.  Go Jacob!!!  He is a great example of a youth who analyzes himself, understands cause and effect, and wants self-government.  I was so impressed.  

 

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