Keeping Teens Safe: The Internet Threat

“Mrs. Peck, I am afraid I can’t believe in God.”

“What do you mean? How do you know?”

“I just don’t do things I should do and I do some things girls my age shouldn’t do…”

“What are you doing that you shouldn’t do?” I asked

“I just…spend my free time with two guys I don’t know…we just use facebook. That’s the place where we met…with one it’s just about conversation, but with the other…he just wanted me to show him my body and so on…you know…things that are done by a different type of people…Sometimes I just think it could be nice for both me and that guy.” Continue reading

Yes or No? ~Parent Choices

 

Is it easier to tell children yes or no when they ask a question?

The answer to this question could depend on what kind of person you are.

Are the kind of parent who really likes to be in control of the goings on in the family and don’t like to be bothered with plans changing, outfits changing, or extra work for a new idea? If you are this kind of person you probably find it is easier to tell the children no when they ask to go play at a friends, finger paint, make cookies, or go swimming.

The Opposite

If you are the kind of parent who feels like it is easier to get the children out from ‘under foot’ by just letting them do what they want in order to offer you more alone time, then you might find it easier to say yes when the children ask you questions like the ones above. You may also feel like it is easier to let them do what they want so that you are not bothered with lots of whining or parenting problems.

What Do The Children Do? Continue reading

Family Night Ideas: Our Top Ten Affordable Activities

Family activity nights are big deals at our house! Not that we spend a lot of money or anything, but we do keep them a big priority. We know that having regular family activities keeps our family relationships fresh. The night gives us something to talk about and look forward to.

Here are is a list of our top ten activities which don’t really cost anything:

1- “Knock Your Socks Off”
Years ago I read an article in a magazine called Family Fun about this great game. This is how you play it. You need at least three players and a blanket.

Lay a large blanket on the carpet or grass and gather round in your stocking feet. Everyone must be wearing two, and only two, socks. My children run for their longest ones when we are going to play this game. You will see why.

The first two people are the players and the third person is the referee. The two players face each other and then the referee says, “Go.”

How to win. The idea of the game is to remove the other person’s socks while keeping your own socks safe. The person with a sock on at the end is the winner.

The match ends as soon as someone is sock-less.

You get out if you hurt another person or go off the blanket. The referee declares the winner and watches the blanket boundaries.

It is absolutely essential to explain the no one can get hurt rule to the group. This keeps the game silly and safe.

Here is a video of how the game goes: watch?v=GBwCq0rP-Vs

2- Four Square
This old playground game is one of our favorites. There is nothing old about it when we play. We reinvent the rules each round. Continue reading

General Conference Notes About Parenting: My Perspective!


Parenting is my passion. So, every Conference I find myself listening for good parenting counsel from the leaders of the church. In recent years, strengthening the family and building good relationships has been an important Conference topic. We live in the last days, when Satan is attacking us where it really matters. In our homes. He encourages us to be selfish and short tempered. He sets our hearts on worldly projects instead of eternal ones. During these difficult social and economic times we can find peace and joy by focusing our best efforts on our eternal family relationships.

Here is what I learned from Conference, about parenting, this year:

Sister Jean A. Stevens
Jean A. Stevens told us to learn from the children. She reminded us that children are born good and usually exemplify good characteristics naturally such as humility, compassion, and believing hearts.

We need to trust in that goodness as we parent. If we trust that our children want to do good, then we can stop ourselves from judging their behaviors and actions. When we judge our children harshly it is usually because we are being selfish. A selfish parent cannot change the heart of a disobedient child. Parenting is really about connecting parents and children on a heart to heart level. Continue reading

Relationship Repair Work

It is garden time at my house.  I really love putting in a garden with the family!  We spent a good amount of time today in the garden pulling weeds and planting new, good seeds.  

Raising children is similar to gardening.  We have to keep nourishing, and planting new seeds to strengthen the garden.  Keep your relationships with your teens, and other children alive and growing by having lots of good talk together, play together, and work together time.  

We can all think of long lists of things we need to weed out of our child’s garden, but if our nourishing relationship isn’t being worked on then the weeding will not work as well as you hope for.  

Focus your best efforts on Continue reading