Advice For Parents: Choosing Your Words Carefully

      A lot of children have selective hearing; have you noticed?  Some of this selective hearing is planned and some isn’t.  They really don’t hear us correctly sometimes.  We can do something to make sure this doesn’t happen as often. 

      Have you ever said don’t run down the hall, and the first thing your child does is run down the hall?  My mom used to say to me, “Don’t talk back to me.”  The first thing I did after this instruction was talk back to her.  Strange. 

      It is never a good idea to start an instruction with the word don’t, because whatever you say after don’t might be the part of the instruction that they think they have to follow.  Here is a classic example. Read the rest of this entry »

Nicholeen and Spencer Give Parenting Advice on TV

As I was thinking about what question would beneficial to answer today on M*, I realized I had just answered questions this morning on television which might be of interest to M* readers.  Today my husband and I had a great day with Debbie and Ron on The KJZZ morning show hosted by KUTV2 news station.  I hope these video clips will be interesting and useful to you and your family.  Today’s topic was consequences and how to choose them.  Remember, “Home should be the safest place to make mistakes.”  (Parenting A House United)

  Below are the links to the two segments we appeared in. 

Segment one: http://connect2utah.com/content/fulltext/?cid=79502

Segment Two: http://connect2utah.com/media_player.php?media_id=119902

Last month we also appeared on the show and will on the second Friday of each month.  Below are the links to last month’s segments. Read the rest of this entry »

Success Strategies ~ Respecting Parents

There are certain skills I teach my children for successful communication in my home.  Two of the main skills are Following Instructions and Accepting No Answers.  These are two of the basic skills for showing respect to parents and for learning how to respect any authority, even God.  People who can’t do these basic skills are very noticeable in society. 

However, learning these skills takes lots of practice and really goes against our selfish tendency to disconnect and Read the rest of this entry »

Children Crying? -Don’t Overreact…Understand Instead!

I was baking bread one day when I heard a commotion coming from downstairs. The children then came to tell me what was happening because they didn’t know where their friend was and had grown concerned. I  discovered that one of our darling little friends had broken a toy.

This little five year old girl had been playing with the toy when it accidentally dropped and broke. She was so worried about getting into trouble, she had run off and hidden herself. Read the rest of this entry »

Frustration When Friends Are Over -Working Out Disagreements

     One day my daughter had one of her best friends over to play while her mom and I visited upstairs. They had only been playing for about 45 minutes when her friend came up from the basement in tears to see her mother. She and my daughter were having a hard time and neither of them felt understood by the other.

     My friend tried to comfort her daughter and give her suggestions on solving the problem but her daughter said, “Mom, I tried to talk to her about it but she won’t listen to me.”

      Clearly these girls did not know how to handle this situation alone so I knew that Read the rest of this entry »