We have all heard the term “super mom” before. Some people have a positive association with the term. They think, “Wow, that lady is amazing. I want to be a super mom like her.” And, some have a negative association with the term. They think, “Oh, she’s one of those crazy super moms.”
Well, whether you love or hate the term, the idea does suggest something. Moms do a lot! Sometimes moms do too much and need to slow down and focus on what is most important.
Let’s face it, it is just too easy to run around all day and miss the “good stuff” in life; like reading with the children on the couch, playing games on the carpet, teaching a young one to sew, or painting at the park. These are the moments which bind us together. I have noticed for a long time that quality of time has a lot to do with quantity of time. In fact, without quantity, quality is frequently not as binding for the relationship.
I usually get a craving to do an inventory of my life with the change of each season. However, my two biggest inventories of the year happen Continue reading
Have you ever been offended?
It is impossible to go through life without experiencing that hurt which comes from a unkind word, or a questionable glance. When these things happen we are left to wonder and assume what the person really thinks of us and if they intended to offend.
Children especially have a tendency to take offense to small actions and words. A mother asked me this about her daughter who has a problem with being offended.
“How do I help my eight year old daughter stop tattling on friends and family members? She takes offense by so many things. And, she seems to want to get other people in trouble to make herself look good. What do I do to stop this?”
The other day I had a group of children over playing at my home. One of our visitors came to me with a very pouty face and tattled on behaviors of two of the other children. The child told me that one person was rude because Continue reading
I remember when I was very small—maybe four or five, sitting on a cushioned chapel bench and staring up into Mama’s face during the Sacrament prayer. Her face looked very serious, and her lips moved in sync with the words the priest spoke. Always. I asked her why she did that. She told me it helped her think about the words that were being spoken. As she sat with her head bowed and eyes closed throughout the passing of the bread and water, I thought about the words she had spoken.
Years ago when I started learning the principles of self-government I was foster parenting really difficult children. Most of these children had some things in common. They were on medication, they had severe anger control issues, and they had terrible eating habits. The medication situation was evaluated, and in most cases stopped when self-government principles were taught. Sometimes the anger control issues stopped immediately when self-government principles and skills were learned. However, sometimes the anger control issues would correct themselves, go through a cycle, and re-surface shortly thereafter. With these youth I had to look at another aspect of their self-government, their diet. Continue reading
This is exciting news!
You are invited! On January 5th, at 4:00 pm Pacific Time, I will be featured in a free parenting conference call. The call will go for about 45 minutes and then have time for questions and answers. This will be a great opportunity to ask those parenting questions you have been wanting to get answers to. This is also a great tiime to get your spouse on the same page as you. Listen together and discuss. Continue reading