One point of view often repeated on the subject of homosexual marriage is that what others may do has no impact on our own marriages and families. Now if a person feels that homosexual marriage would be a good thing, as good as marriage between heterosexuals, then of course, that person wouldn’t consider that its acceptance could harm him; there’s no harm to impact anyone. If the person agrees with Church teachings that homosexuals should not pair with one another, however, then the view that homosexual marriage can’t affect him is a fairly insular one.
To some degree we need to be insular; there is adversity in the world that defeats many and will defeat us unless we can stand fast. Still, adversity is adverse. For a few years I had the privilege to live in a town in Michigan that ranked sixth in the 2000 census for the portion of households formed by married couples. I felt my family more sustained by that community than in others I’ve lived. For example, when our fourth child was born, there wasn’t anything a bit unusual about that. Cub scout day camp was run very well, and cost less than half what our current area council charges.
I also grew up in the part of Clark County, Nevada that would later rank fourth in for the portion of households that are formed by unmarried heterosexual partners. I liked my old neighborhood, but family stability wasn’t one of its defining features. We need to be immune to such things about us, but it’s a dangerous thing to presume too much about our own strength.