Old Fashioned Solutions For Modern Day Parenting Problems

Were there dangers for children back in the old days? Did parents worry about keeping their children safe from social ills like we do today? In his recent book, Mormon Parenting Secrets (don’t let the name fool you, it’s for all families and all faiths), Flint Stephens says that pioneer families did have fears and concerns about the safety of their children, but those dangers were often different than we face today. He says that pioneer parents were afraid of rattlesnakes and cliffs, high rivers and getting lost in the wilderness.

Modern families also have fears, but our fears are moral fears rather than physical fears. This is not to say that there weren’t any moral issues in pioneer times. But, as a general rule, people didn’t have time to be immoral. The demands of pioneer living were so time-consuming and the reputation a man or woman had with his few neighbors was so important that the laziness induced immorality, which is so common today, was rarely ever a temptation. Continue reading

Becoming A Youth: The Answer To Teenager Problems

“I am not a teenager and here’s why…” said a group of youth one day during a discussion on the article by Dr. Michael Platt, The Myth Of The Teenager. One after one each of the group of fifteen or so youth declared why they were not or would not be teenagers. They said things like:

“If we don’t want anyone to despise our youth, then we need to be worthy of respect, we cannot hope to be that by being a teenager. I want to be someone who makes a difference in other people’s lives, and I cannot do that by being a teenager.” ~Benjamin age 13

“We cannot walk as other men or talk as other men or do as other men, for we have a different destiny, obligation and responsibility placed upon us and we must fit ourselves to it.” ~Paije age 12

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Children Who Can’t Sit Still Cure: Problem Solving Activities

One Sunday our family attended a rare, two hour long church meeting. My children are very used to sitting quietly through one hour church meetings, but sometimes they struggle a little bit on a two hour meeting.

About three quarters through the meeting this past Sunday my eight year old son asked if he could go to the bathroom. I told him he could, but to hurry back. About twenty minutes later my husband leaned over and whispered in my ear, “Where is Porter?”

“I don’t know.” I said. “I thought he would be back by now. He went to the bathroom. We’ll need to go looking for him.” My husband sat back in his seat content that I was going to go look. “You will need to go look for him.” I smiled. “I can’t go into the boys bathroom.”

“Oh yeah. Oops. Sorry Bunny.” he whispered with a smile as he stood up and walked toward the door.

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Interview With Nicholeen Peck #3: Making A Family Government

Interview with a parenting expert part 3

This is part three of the three-part series on Teaching Children Self-Government I did with Family Therapist, BJ Stober, host of Family Voice Talk Radio.

In this segment we talk about helping teens figure out ways to decrease computer time.  A question was asked presented stating that children are often forced to have lots of computer time by school etc.  So, they wanted to know how to find a balance.

For the remainder of the call we talked about making a family government structure in the home to back parents up.  If a family has a secure structure then the parents and children all fee more secure.  There is not as much parenting guess-work, and the children learn cause and effect, which lead them toward self-government. Continue reading

Interview With Nicholeen Peck #2: Calmness Tips

People often ask me how to be calm when someone else isn’t.  Without calmness self-government is impossible.  In part 2 of 3 parts on the Family Voice Talk Radio with family therapist, BJ Stober we talked about calmness and answered many parenting questions.


Here is a link to the video recording of the show.


Next week the show will be about making a successful family government structure.  Continue reading