In the mothers day thread I’d made note that no one that I knew seemed to really get up with the kids. Now I felt somewhat bad about that since a few people took that as being critical of the particular choices their family had made, even though both parties were happy with the decision. Now I didn’t intend it to be taken that way. It was more that it seemed likely there were problems helping wives if every wife “coincidentally” didn’t want the husband to get up. Not a problem with any one family, but perhaps with the community overall. However as I realized how it was taken I became a little reflective on whether I was being unfairly (and unrighteously) judgmental.
Now I do know that many people outside of the Church have criticized us, as a people, for sometimes being too judgmental. Even in the Church I notice many bringing it up as a problem. (At BYU Rameumpton and Pharisee jokes were rampant – typically always about the “other guy.”)
Here’s my question. How can we be reflective of our community and of actions we worry about without being judgmental? Or, almost as bad, communicating to others inadvertently that we are judging them.