Today Elder M. Russell Ballard addressed the World Conference of Families being held in Salt Lake City. The address is only 21 minutes long. Watch it and let us know what you think about his address in the comments.
I wrote this post on my personal blog last year for October 15th, which Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day. I’m sharing it here, with the hope that it can give comfort to someone, as I feel particularly burdened today for various reasons.
Some years I remember October 15th and some years I don’t.
This year, I think, things have not been particularly hard when I’ve remembered our babies that we lost to miscarriages, but I have thought a lot about the fact that they would have been 8 years old. And for Mormons, age 8 is significant, because that’s when we are baptized into our church. I’ve been thinking about those baptisms that will not happen. Not in a sad way, but with a hint of longing is all.
I remember the fall of 2005 and the winter of 2006 without much fondness. I was unexpectedly plunged into a very deep and lasting sadness because of miscarriage. I just felt totally broadsided by my circumstance. betrayed by my body, and wholly unprepared for how to handle it. It took me almost year for that fog to lift and to feel like myself again.
There were days when I could not face people because I knew I would just dissolve into tears. I didn’t want people to ask me how I was, because I certainly was not “FINE” at all. But I didn’t even know how to deal with the depth of emotions and feelings that I found myself in. I wanted help, but I didn’t even know how to ask for it.
Perhaps that was the lesson for me. Going thru pregnancy loss certainly helped me to understand empathy and compassion in ways I never thought possible, and how to reach out to women in need. It also helped me to understand the indescribable joy that children are. In the spring of 2008 when I was expecting Sweet Baby James, I did not let myself be happy for the first 6 weeks of the pregnancy, not until I heard the comforting whir of a fetal heartbeat on an ultra sound. That was a very blessed and miraculous day.
So, almost 9 years later, what have I been thinking about in relation to pregnancy loss and what it taught me?
First, there are still women who suffer alone when they lose a child. My heart goes to them. I wish I could find all of them, and sit and comfort them — because you are not alone. There are many women who perfectly understand what you are going thru. Pray to find them.
Second, despite the associated sorrow of losing a child, we still have the amazing ability to heal and be made whole thru the grace of Jesus Christ. He truly is a sun and shield (see Psalms 84:11). Days will get better, I promise.
Third, I think losing my first pregnancies made me appreciate my subsequent ones, even with all of the associate complications. Modern medicine is amazing and miraculous. Children are amazing and miraculous. The births of both of my children were amazing and miraculous, because truly we almost lost both of them during their pregnancies.
Fourth, I can even say now that I would not trade the experience of losing my first children either, because I would never want to lose that walk with God.
Fifth, I am thankful for the people that I have met and who I have been able to help, as a result of losing our babies. Most especially my friend Paula, who was a true friend, and to the friends who have come to me privately when they have lost their pregnancies. Even though those were sad times, I am so thankful that I was able to mourn with them and stand with them in their times of need. I’m so thankful they thought to trust me with their sorrow.
So, to my friends who have lost children, either due to miscarriage or some other circumstance — I am remembering you today. And I am looking forward to that day, in two years, when we will have a baptism to celebrate in our family.
The Church released a video of all of the current apostles bearing their testimony of Jesus Christ, at the time of their calling to the apostleship. It’s a great way to start your day. Please share it with your friends.
Snacks? Notepad? Pencil? Remote Control? Selfies of your feet watching General Conference? Or perhaps you get dressed up and watch at your meetinghouse? Do you have friends and family over to watch? Activities for the kids ready? But, are you ready for General Conference?
Over at Middle-aged Mormon Man’s blog, he suggested we use General Conference as the kick-off to the 4th Quarter (of the year) to reset the goals we made back in January. He suggested doing these things:
1) Watch all of Conference this weekend.
2) Figure out what you NEED to accomplish before the year is out.
3) Make sure the Lord is onboard with your plans.
4) Write it down!
5) Tell someone that is important to you what you plan to do.
6) Get it done.
I thought those were great suggestions, and I think I’m going to accept the challenge, to reset myself for the 4th Quarter of 2015. Continue reading
The Church has just announced the passing of Elder Richard G. Scott today. Our hearts, prayers, and condolences are with the Scott family, as well as the members of the Quorum of the 12 and First Presidency.
His passing marks the third member of the 12 to pass away since April General Conference. This upcoming Conference will give us all the chance to see how the mantle of responsibility is passed to the next, new apostles and to witness the Gospel in action. It’s a testimony to the order the Lord has established in His Church.
Till we meet again, Elder Scott. Thank you for your years of wise council and wisdom. You will be missed.
UPDATE: Elder Scott’s funeral will be held on Monday, September 28, 2015, in the Salt Lake Tabernacle at 11am MDT. The funeral will also be streamed online at LDS.org, MormonNewsRoom.org, BYUTV.org and on KSL, and KBYU tv in Utah.