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		<title>By: annegb</title>
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		<dc:creator>annegb</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 18 Jul 2009 16:56:06 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>What those young men did was rude.  Just bad manners and like you pointed out, Nick, they wanted the controversy.  

I wouldn&#039;t come to your house and diss your beliefs in your face.  I&#039;m with the church on this totally...</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>What those young men did was rude.  Just bad manners and like you pointed out, Nick, they wanted the controversy.  </p>
<p>I wouldn&#8217;t come to your house and diss your beliefs in your face.  I&#8217;m with the church on this totally&#8230;</p>
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		<title>By: Geoff B.</title>
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		<dc:creator>Geoff B.</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Jul 2009 20:59:26 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I will cut you this slack:  can you imagine the defamation lawsuit if the &quot;groping&quot; allegation turns out not to be true?  Yikes.  More reason to believe that the Church feels it has a 100 percent solid case (including, most likely, video tape and perhaps even eyewitness corroboration).</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I will cut you this slack:  can you imagine the defamation lawsuit if the &#8220;groping&#8221; allegation turns out not to be true?  Yikes.  More reason to believe that the Church feels it has a 100 percent solid case (including, most likely, video tape and perhaps even eyewitness corroboration).</p>
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		<title>By: Nick Literski</title>
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		<dc:creator>Nick Literski</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Jul 2009 20:53:22 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;i&gt;I’m sure you know that one person’s defensiveness is another person’s “setting the record straight.” Perspective is everything.&lt;/i&gt;

I get that.  Just cut me a little slack, Mister.  I&#039;m really trying to have a respectful discussion on the topic at hand.  :-)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><i>I’m sure you know that one person’s defensiveness is another person’s “setting the record straight.” Perspective is everything.</i></p>
<p>I get that.  Just cut me a little slack, Mister.  I&#8217;m really trying to have a respectful discussion on the topic at hand.  <img src='http://www.millennialstar.org/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':-)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
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		<title>By: Geoff B.</title>
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		<dc:creator>Geoff B.</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Jul 2009 20:50:20 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Nick, just to be clear, I had a calling in public affairs so was not an employee.  But nevertheless I have worked with probably a dozen different people in SLC public affairs over the years and have been involved in high-level meetings at different times.  I think you are correct that one of the key issues regarding inappropriate behavior is the &quot;groping&quot; allegation.  Thank you for reminding me that there probably ARE video tapes and the Church probably feels pretty sure it can prove the &quot;groping&quot; allegation.

Regarding defensiveness, I&#039;m sure you know that one person&#039;s defensiveness is another person&#039;s &quot;setting the record straight.&quot;  Perspective is everything.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Nick, just to be clear, I had a calling in public affairs so was not an employee.  But nevertheless I have worked with probably a dozen different people in SLC public affairs over the years and have been involved in high-level meetings at different times.  I think you are correct that one of the key issues regarding inappropriate behavior is the &#8220;groping&#8221; allegation.  Thank you for reminding me that there probably ARE video tapes and the Church probably feels pretty sure it can prove the &#8220;groping&#8221; allegation.</p>
<p>Regarding defensiveness, I&#8217;m sure you know that one person&#8217;s defensiveness is another person&#8217;s &#8220;setting the record straight.&#8221;  Perspective is everything.</p>
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		<title>By: Nick Literski</title>
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		<dc:creator>Nick Literski</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Jul 2009 20:41:20 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Geoff, I wish you wouldn&#039;t try to turn this into a game of &quot;I dismiss your comments, because you&#039;re an eeee-vil apostate.&quot;  I appreciate your insight and perspective as a former employee of the LDS Public Affairs Department.  

It&#039;s clear that I miscommunicated, however. When I spoke of &quot;rampant defensiveness,&quot; I was not trying to imply guilt.  The fact is, we&#039;re all very capable of being &lt;b&gt;right&lt;/b&gt;, yet reacting to others&#039; comments in an overly-defensive manner.  From my personal perspective, it seems that over the past couple years, the LDS-PA office has been issuing defensive statements on a variety of topics, where they previously would have taken the &quot;don&#039;t dignify that with a response&quot; approach.  Sometimes that&#039;s a good and important thing.  Other times, it can backfire.  I&#039;m personally aware of at least one incident during the past year, where LDS-PA were essentially &lt;b&gt;right&lt;/b&gt; in how they characterized the individual actions of a local bishop, yet the tone was such that many reacted with &quot;methinks the lady doth protest too much,&quot; and concluded that the LDS church must be hiding something.  In a number of statements during the past two years, the LDS-PA office has seemed to focus on portraying their church as &lt;b&gt;victims&lt;/b&gt; in any situation which arises. These sort of things which I was describing by &quot;rampant defensiveness.&quot;

This particular statement doesn&#039;t carry the same air of defensive posturing.  It does, however, make some very specific factual allegations, which I&#039;m surprised legal minds would readily approve.  Perhaps they really do have everything on video, and are prepared to give unquestionable proof of their claims.  In any case, there are inherent risks in making such specific accusations in official PR statements, as I&#039;m sure you know.

For what it&#039;s worth, Geoff, &lt;b&gt;if&lt;/b&gt; the description by LDS-PA is accurate (particularly in regard to public &quot;groping&quot;), I agree that it fell clearly into the category of &quot;inappropriate,&quot; even if it wasn&#039;t private property.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Geoff, I wish you wouldn&#8217;t try to turn this into a game of &#8220;I dismiss your comments, because you&#8217;re an eeee-vil apostate.&#8221;  I appreciate your insight and perspective as a former employee of the LDS Public Affairs Department.  </p>
<p>It&#8217;s clear that I miscommunicated, however. When I spoke of &#8220;rampant defensiveness,&#8221; I was not trying to imply guilt.  The fact is, we&#8217;re all very capable of being <b>right</b>, yet reacting to others&#8217; comments in an overly-defensive manner.  From my personal perspective, it seems that over the past couple years, the LDS-PA office has been issuing defensive statements on a variety of topics, where they previously would have taken the &#8220;don&#8217;t dignify that with a response&#8221; approach.  Sometimes that&#8217;s a good and important thing.  Other times, it can backfire.  I&#8217;m personally aware of at least one incident during the past year, where LDS-PA were essentially <b>right</b> in how they characterized the individual actions of a local bishop, yet the tone was such that many reacted with &#8220;methinks the lady doth protest too much,&#8221; and concluded that the LDS church must be hiding something.  In a number of statements during the past two years, the LDS-PA office has seemed to focus on portraying their church as <b>victims</b> in any situation which arises. These sort of things which I was describing by &#8220;rampant defensiveness.&#8221;</p>
<p>This particular statement doesn&#8217;t carry the same air of defensive posturing.  It does, however, make some very specific factual allegations, which I&#8217;m surprised legal minds would readily approve.  Perhaps they really do have everything on video, and are prepared to give unquestionable proof of their claims.  In any case, there are inherent risks in making such specific accusations in official PR statements, as I&#8217;m sure you know.</p>
<p>For what it&#8217;s worth, Geoff, <b>if</b> the description by LDS-PA is accurate (particularly in regard to public &#8220;groping&#8221;), I agree that it fell clearly into the category of &#8220;inappropriate,&#8221; even if it wasn&#8217;t private property.</p>
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		<title>By: The Rest of the Story&#8211;Church Plaza Incident &#171; Messenger and Advocate</title>
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		<dc:creator>The Rest of the Story&#8211;Church Plaza Incident &#171; Messenger and Advocate</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Jul 2009 20:31:38 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] liked Geoff&#8217;s comment below and the original over at M* and wanted to highlight it in this main part of the post.  I agree wholeheartedly. There will be [...]</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>[...] liked Geoff&#8217;s comment below and the original over at M* and wanted to highlight it in this main part of the post.  I agree wholeheartedly. There will be [...]</p>
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		<title>By: Geoff B.</title>
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		<dc:creator>Geoff B.</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Jul 2009 20:16:41 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Nick, I don&#039;t think you and I are going to find agreement on this issue given that you are a disaffected former Church member.  To be quite frank, some of your comments over the years have been even-handed and some clearly intended to question/cast aspersions on the Church in as subtle way as possible.  Your claims of &quot;rampant defensiveness&quot; show your perspective -- which is that the Church has something about which to be defensive.  My perspective is the exact opposite -- it is Church critics, especially on the gay marriage issue, who have acted in an uncharitable and dishonest way.  The fact that Church critics have not come under greater scrutiny or criticism is just a sign of our times -- when good is called bad and bad is called good.

I simply would like to point out that I worked with Church public affairs for several years.  I know most of the people who work in Church public affairs in SLC, and I know how they operate.  I would trust my life with them -- without a doubt.  In this particular case, given my experience, there is no doubt in my mind that what happened is that Church public affairs and/or Church counsel interviewed the security guards extensively to double and triple-check their story.  They decided to release this statement several days after the incident so they would have time to check it.  After interviewing the security guards, the Brethren were consulted, and, very likely, several meetings were held to discuss the matter.

If such a statement was released, it is supported by the Brethren completely and has been cleared by probably dozens of people.  That&#039;s definitely good enough for me.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Nick, I don&#8217;t think you and I are going to find agreement on this issue given that you are a disaffected former Church member.  To be quite frank, some of your comments over the years have been even-handed and some clearly intended to question/cast aspersions on the Church in as subtle way as possible.  Your claims of &#8220;rampant defensiveness&#8221; show your perspective &#8212; which is that the Church has something about which to be defensive.  My perspective is the exact opposite &#8212; it is Church critics, especially on the gay marriage issue, who have acted in an uncharitable and dishonest way.  The fact that Church critics have not come under greater scrutiny or criticism is just a sign of our times &#8212; when good is called bad and bad is called good.</p>
<p>I simply would like to point out that I worked with Church public affairs for several years.  I know most of the people who work in Church public affairs in SLC, and I know how they operate.  I would trust my life with them &#8212; without a doubt.  In this particular case, given my experience, there is no doubt in my mind that what happened is that Church public affairs and/or Church counsel interviewed the security guards extensively to double and triple-check their story.  They decided to release this statement several days after the incident so they would have time to check it.  After interviewing the security guards, the Brethren were consulted, and, very likely, several meetings were held to discuss the matter.</p>
<p>If such a statement was released, it is supported by the Brethren completely and has been cleared by probably dozens of people.  That&#8217;s definitely good enough for me.</p>
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		<title>By: Nick Literski</title>
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		<dc:creator>Nick Literski</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Jul 2009 20:03:26 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I&#039;m sure I&#039;ve made it clear already, Geoff, that you and I agree on the point of the young men committing the crime of trespass.  That said, I hope you&#039;re not taking the PR statement as absolute truth, merely because it was officially issued by your church.  

I don&#039;t take the statement as absolute truth &lt;b&gt;or&lt;/b&gt; absolute falsehood.  I do, however, take it as a statement issued by an office who&#039;s job it is to make the organization &quot;look good&quot; in the media (which they&#039;ve been struggling at accomplishing, frankly, due to rampant defensiveness in their statements over the past year or two).</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;m sure I&#8217;ve made it clear already, Geoff, that you and I agree on the point of the young men committing the crime of trespass.  That said, I hope you&#8217;re not taking the PR statement as absolute truth, merely because it was officially issued by your church.  </p>
<p>I don&#8217;t take the statement as absolute truth <b>or</b> absolute falsehood.  I do, however, take it as a statement issued by an office who&#8217;s job it is to make the organization &#8220;look good&#8221; in the media (which they&#8217;ve been struggling at accomplishing, frankly, due to rampant defensiveness in their statements over the past year or two).</p>
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		<title>By: Geoff B.</title>
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		<dc:creator>Geoff B.</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Jul 2009 19:53:52 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Nick, it is also possible (in fact, in my opinion standard operating procedure) that Church public affairs interviewed the security guards involved and found out the additional information.  Church public affairs decided to release it so that the record was clear.  Public affairs is highly unlikely to release this information without passing it by a group of the Brethren and likely Church counsel.  You&#039;re probably correct that some kind of lawsuit will take place, and it seems wise to me for the Church to set the record straight right from the start.  Hopefully the result will be that people will be forewarned about avoiding this kind of behavior on Church property.

Based on the available information, I personally am more likely to believe the Church version.  These guys were drunk and looking for a battle, and they rightly got arrested after getting unnecessarily bellicose.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Nick, it is also possible (in fact, in my opinion standard operating procedure) that Church public affairs interviewed the security guards involved and found out the additional information.  Church public affairs decided to release it so that the record was clear.  Public affairs is highly unlikely to release this information without passing it by a group of the Brethren and likely Church counsel.  You&#8217;re probably correct that some kind of lawsuit will take place, and it seems wise to me for the Church to set the record straight right from the start.  Hopefully the result will be that people will be forewarned about avoiding this kind of behavior on Church property.</p>
<p>Based on the available information, I personally am more likely to believe the Church version.  These guys were drunk and looking for a battle, and they rightly got arrested after getting unnecessarily bellicose.</p>
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		<title>By: Nick Literski</title>
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		<dc:creator>Nick Literski</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Jul 2009 19:13:05 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>So the LDS Public Affairs Department has created a &quot;we&#039;re the victims here&quot; statement, including allegations never before made or reflected in the police report.  As a result, these young men will likely add defamation to their surely-impending lawsuit.  The security films will end up getting subpoenaed, and we can all find out where the truth comes down.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>So the LDS Public Affairs Department has created a &#8220;we&#8217;re the victims here&#8221; statement, including allegations never before made or reflected in the police report.  As a result, these young men will likely add defamation to their surely-impending lawsuit.  The security films will end up getting subpoenaed, and we can all find out where the truth comes down.</p>
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